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     nbrown New member Username: nbrown Post Number: 8 Registered: 11-2006 Posted From: 71.39.121.221 |
Sometimes when you are attending ntcc, something will happen that keeps you out of services and events for awhile. For me it was the birth of my second son. Now I know they expect you back in church IMMEDIATELY after giving birth, which I was at the time. However my son had some health issues that came up shortly after and it ended up giving me time to take a step back. He was extremely difficult to feed and later we found out he has severe reflux. When I would drop him off in the nursery, he was given very little attention. Some women seemed very callous to me. They would tell me that a baby just a few months old should be able to hold their own bottle. Almost every time I picked him up he was sitting somewhere alone and had not been fed. The idea of sitting through a 3 plus hour davis sermon was flying out the window for me. I needed to take care of my baby. My son associates eating with pain and at almost three he lives mostly on pediasure. Thankfully he can drink enough of it on his own and doesn't have to be tube fed. He takes prilosec and when we're able, we take him to feeding therapy. To be continued... | ||
| nbrown New member Username: nbrown Post Number: 9 Registered: 11-2006 Posted From: 71.39.121.221 |
For the 1st year of his life my husband and I didn't know what was wrong. I think for everyone there are things in ntcc that really bother people, but they let them pile up and pile up. Well this was something abrupt for me that the lifestyle I was living just would not work if I wanted to take good care of my son. So it ended up giving me time to take a breather. Sometimes I think about visiting another church but it is always very difficult to leave him in a nursery setting. Thank God I can be a stay-at-home mom and take care of him. No one loves your kids as much as you do. There is one church I've considered visiting for quite some time, but its just never worked out. Then I got last Sunday's paper. The headline said "Discord Reverberates". It was a two page article about all the power plays, and hundreds of members who have left, and the preachers who left to start their own churches. Dejavu all over again. So... I just make sure my kids are taken care of first... and then we will go from there. | ||
| biblegirl1999 Intermediate Member Username: biblegirl1999 Post Number: 243 Registered: 6-2005 Posted From: 79.199.30.207 |
Maybe you can Google 'Family Integrated Churches' and see if there are any on your area. Those type of churches do not split up children and adults but the children stay with the parents in the service. I think also if you go to www.visionforum.com and look around if they have a site map that will give you a list of family integrated churches as well. I was looking at it not too long ago for when me and my husband move. Children are people too and they can learn and pick up things rather quickly.  Hope maybe I was able to help in a search for a church God Bless!} | ||
| tracypelfrey Junior Member Username: tracypelfrey Post Number: 39 Registered: 12-2007 Posted From: 76.211.7.241 |
And there's nothing in the world wrong with that Nicole. Our kids, thought not neglected in the way you think of neglect when you hear it...were neglected during their younger years (18 and younger)...they really were. There seems to be no need to feel as if you HAVE to put yourself in that same position all over again where your son is concerned. What's wrong with finding a friend (two or three gathered in my name-type thing) or a few friends and meeting together at someone's house to read together or talk about the Lord or pray together or just fellowship. No one has to conform to a "mold"...or has to conform to what someone thinks you "should do" or has to conform to what others "think you should do". To worry about that mess is to start right back at square one with that "stinkin' thinkin'" Hey...I got a call recently from a lady who lives in your area. She used to attend NTCC...a long, long time ago...and only for a year...but she has been damaged by the experience. I think you two could sharpen each other's iron. I call ya. Tracy |
