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     nabashalam Intermediate Member Username: nabashalam Post Number: 165 Registered: 1-2006 Posted From: 24.183.100.216 |
Begetting Change Repeated bouts of adversity are an unavoidable aspect of human existence. We battle against our inner struggles or outer world forces, and in many cases, we emerge on the opposite side of struggle stronger and better equipped to cope with the challenges yet to come. However, we can occasionally encounter trials that seem utterly hopeless. We strike at them with all of our creativity and perseverance, hoping desperately to bring about change, only to meet with the same results as always. Our first instinct in such situations is often to push harder against the seemingly immovable obstruction before us, assuming that this time we will be met with a different outcome. But staying power and stamina net us little when the same choices consistently garner the same results. A change in perspective, behavior, or response can do so much more to help us move past points where no amount of effort seems sufficient to overcome the difficulties before us. Whether our intention is to change ourselves or some element of the world around us, we cannot simply wish for transformation or hope that our lives will be altered through circumstance. If our patterns of thought and behavior remain unchanged, our lives will continue to unfold much as they have previously. Patterns in which fruitless efforts prevail can be overcome with self examination and courage. It is our bravery that allows us to question the choices we have made thus far and to channel our effort into innovation. Asking questions and making small adjustments to your thought processes and behaviors will help you discover what works, so you can leave that which does not work behind you. To break free from those unconscious patterns that have long held sway over your actions and reactions, you will likely have to challenge your assumptions on a most basic level. You must accept once and for all that your beliefs with regard to cause and effect may no longer be in accordance with your needs. Stagnation is often a sign that great changes are on the horizon. Courting the change you wish to see in yourself and in the world around you is a matter of acknowledging that only change begets change. The results you so ardently want to realize are well within the realm of possibility, and you need only step away from the well-worn circular path to explore the untried paths that lie beyond it. | ||
| anon_e_mus New member Username: anon_e_mus Post Number: 20 Registered: 5-2005 Posted From: 71.168.252.51 |
Hi Dave, I would like to suggest your starting an (or continuing your) online diary, where you share your insights. You can periodically invite those who are interested. I find some of your postings to be flooding and would like to see this list get back on track about the TT's. | ||
| nabashalam Intermediate Member Username: nabashalam Post Number: 169 Registered: 1-2006 Posted From: 216.106.250.203 |
First off I apologise for my biting response to you before... I post my insights because I feel it could be helpful for some ex-TT members and they can take it or leave it! No problem! And I don't see where it is "off the track" as you portray it! Please dont tell me what I can and cant post here. Its rather controlling and TTish of you and I wont listen to it! You see? I can ignore your stuff just as well as you can ignore mine if you wish!  | ||
| fatherofaking Intermediate Member Username: fatherofaking Post Number: 224 Registered: 8-2005 Posted From: 71.255.157.134 |
thanks for the reminder naba. Change has a considerable psychological impact on the human mind. To the fearful it is threatening because it means that things may get worse. To the hopeful it is encouraging because things may get better. To the confident it is inspiring because the challenge exists to make things better. King Whitney Jr. http://www.quotationspage.com/subjects/change/ | ||
| nabashalam Intermediate Member Username: nabashalam Post Number: 170 Registered: 1-2006 Posted From: 216.106.250.203 |
The main reason I posted this was because it goes along with people returning to cults after leaving them thinking "maybe it will be different this time...". Same as the battered spouse syndrome... I don't think theres a single person who leaves a high control group that doesn't think about or consider returning... | ||
| nabashalam Intermediate Member Username: nabashalam Post Number: 171 Registered: 1-2006 Posted From: 216.106.250.203 |
It's like AAs definition of insanity: Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results! |
