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     jesusisawesome New member Username: jesusisawesome Post Number: 10 Registered: 4-2007 Posted From: 15.235.153.105 |
For anyone that might be confused or unsure about how to draw the line with others, what is biblical and what is not biblical, there's a book I'd like to recommend called "Boundaries", by Dr Henry Cloud and Dr John Townsend . . . book is subtitled "When to Say YES When to Say NO To Take Control of Your Life". You can get it at any major bookstore, and also order online. It was a great "eye opener" for me a number of years back when I read it. It is a great aid for understanding what healthy boundaries are with other people, why we need to set healthy boundaries with others, and how to set those boundaries . . . whether they be a "pastor" or anyone else. http://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-Dr-Henry-Cloud/dp/0310247454 "Christians often focus so much on being loving and unselfish that they forget their own limitations, allowing others to take advantage of their kindness. Authors Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend offer Biblically-based ways to take control of your life and set healthy boundaries with parents, spouses, children, friends, coworkers, and even yourself. Using the case history of a fictional woman named Sherrie, Drs. Cloud and Townsend illustrate her growth from living with virtually no limitations to applying boundaries with others in her life. In the process, they answer many difficult questions, teaching us how to set limits but still be loving, identify our legitimate boundaries, and say no without feeling guilty. Boundaries is an essential guide for Christians who want to increase their assertiveness without sacrificing the ideals of the Scriptures." It really is a great book, and gives biblical insight and guidelines into boundaries, and about how God really is the author of setting boundaries with others . . . and that it is a very healthy thing to do. | ||
| dust Senior Member Username: dust Post Number: 1351 Registered: 9-2005 Posted From: 67.96.144.2 |
JIA, I have the book and the tapes and I agree....very good. I would like to mention a great radio talk show that Henry and John are also a part of: NEW LIFE MINISTIES, radio show for call in counseling which is excellent. Another book by their colleagues is TOXIC FAITH, By Steve Arterburn and Jack Felton. When religion becomes a means to avoid or control life, it becomes toxic. They often address these issues on the radio program. Excellent, bible based, well-balanced and they are all educated and licensed in counseling. Their focus is RECOVERY. Awesome. | ||
| jesusisawesome New member Username: jesusisawesome Post Number: 14 Registered: 4-2007 Posted From: 15.235.153.105 |
Thanks for the input Dustie . . . I loved this book! To a certain extent I didn't have proper boundaries as a young adult, and I didn't understand what they were . . . and it was so easy for me to fall into MCM and the authority structure, and have a hard time seeing clearly the wrong boundaries that were in place . . . and I ended up learning some life lessons the very hard, very painful way. This book is a wonderful guide to proper relational boundaries, and how they are Godly, and protect you from harm. | ||
| coppertree Senior Member Username: coppertree Post Number: 1317 Registered: 2-2005 Posted From: 172.147.126.141 |
Hi All Catching up !! Yes "Toxic Faith ,, is a great book,, as are those from New Life !! Helpful to say the least.} |
